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adjusting
still wonders what it takes to be happy
depressed?
backpack
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| WHO AM I (Lili Frost)
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Today, on the street
In the metro,
It's a melancholy day
No one speaks
Passing you by
Wondering why
Today, like any day
Rolled out of bed
Talked on the telephone
Went to the doctor, she said
You're OK
Still I wonder
Who am I
Today in the air
On the water
Ships pass you by
Clouds fantasize
Dragging shapes across the sky
Wondering why
Who am I
Clarion crows for the courtsmans brigade
Centuries before on this very stage
Gypsies serenade, passed through DNA
And so it found its way
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Friday, March 03, 2006
@8:59 am
-cont'd
But hold on a second...
Emotions are GOOD, right?
Shouldn't we listen to them and respect what they're telling us? Doesn't a man need to be there for his woman if she's going through something? Aren't emotions the thing that allow us to really EXPERIENCE life in a deep, rich and meaningful way? And isn't it wrong and harmful to try and "control how you feel?" Isn't it better to just "be who you are" and not beat yourself up because you feel or think about things in a certain way? And wouldn't ignoring or avoiding your feelings turn you into someone you're not? Have you ever heard a woman (or a man) say "I can't help the way I feel"...?
We all have.
We even have TERMS that we use to describe when we're overly upset and just need to "get it out".
We call it "venting" or "dumping".
I call it the "drama vomit". lol
So here's the question I'm getting at...
Is it "OK" it to be upset, to get emotional, and to show EXACTLY how you feel inside with men?
YOU CREATE WHAT YOU SHARE
To make things simple, let's put emotions into two categories...
There are those that you could consider "positive" emotions or those based in "joy".
And then there are "negative" emotions. or those based in "fear".
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n other words, there are the emotions that make you "feel good" and emotions that make you "feel bad".
We all know that emotions aren't "self-contained".
Isn't it frustrating when you feel angry or down and you just want a man to hear you and listen to you - but then they get all wrapped up and intense just because you wanted to share?
Well, if you've ever had this happen to you and you got frustrated or angry about it, then you've got something important to learn.
Emotions are CONTAGIOUS.
In other words, when you feel an emotion, you can very easily pass what you're feeling on to the person you're sharing it with. And the stronger you feel the emotion, the more it will "over-ride" the other person and get them on your emotional level. Even if their level is CONSTRUCTIVE and POSITIVE and yours is DESTRUCTIVE and NEGATIVE.
And when an emotion starts to become too strong, it literally TAKES OVER your mind and body. Then you're driven with your body language and your words to share that feeling. In some situations, this can be a very powerful POSITIVE thing for a person.
Imagine your favorite actor or singer giving a world-class performance... you can literally FEEL the emotions they're feeling. Or how about when a man surprises you with a romantic night with candle-light and he's open, connected and sharing himself with you. It can be an amazing experience when they allow their emotions to take over. And you get to go there with them.
But it can also be a very powerful NEGATIVE thing as well. Have you ever been spending time with a guy and he became LESS CONNECTED to you as you were becoming MORE CONNECTED to him. It probably made you so nervous, anxious and out of control that you made yourself sick.
When an emotion becomes so strong that it actually "becomes you", your behavior and your sole motivation... then you're out of control. Emotions can actually trick you into trying to CONTROL others, just to get back to where you feel comfortable.
And instead of simply communicating what it is that you're going through and what you want, you actually try and make the other person FEEL the bad things that YOU FEEL.
Ouch.
And sure, the short-term payoff for this is usually some sense of immediate relief or resolution. You get your feelings off your chest and get to release them, which can feel great at the time. But the long-term effects aren't so sunny.
So let me ask you...
What if your quality of life and your relationships could be BETTER than the negative emotions and fears that hi-jack your mind? What if you made a man feel a deep sense of LOVE instead of sharing the contagious NEGATIVE EMOTIONS that come from your fears? And what if you broke out of those same old patterns that keep happening again and again?
-to be cont'd
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