| HOODIE
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adjusting
still wonders what it takes to be happy
depressed?
backpack
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| WHO AM I (Lili Frost)
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Today, on the street
In the metro,
It's a melancholy day
No one speaks
Passing you by
Wondering why
Today, like any day
Rolled out of bed
Talked on the telephone
Went to the doctor, she said
You're OK
Still I wonder
Who am I
Today in the air
On the water
Ships pass you by
Clouds fantasize
Dragging shapes across the sky
Wondering why
Who am I
Clarion crows for the courtsmans brigade
Centuries before on this very stage
Gypsies serenade, passed through DNA
And so it found its way
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maystar * designs
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Tuesday, April 18, 2006
@9:48 pm
THE DANGEROUS SECRET OF MEN IN LOVE
So what comes after the honeymoon stage?
The next stage in our emotional love cycle is what scientists have called the "bonding stage". This second set of feelings and experiences are the "settle-down-raise-a-family-spend-time-cuddling-watching-movies-together" ones.
They're all about bonding, attachment, comfort and more long term stuff.
I've been thinking about one big important question that I know tons of women want to know about which relates to this.
We all know that lots of men can have a hard time staying connected and close to a woman after the honeymoon.
When the intense physical attraction changes and things become more "emotionally involved". Lots of times they'll become distant, boring, unpassionate, lazy, or ever worse... Unfaithful. Yikes.
With all this going on, the question is...
* Once you have love, how do you make it last?
Here's where I'm going tell you the secret that most women don't know about men and love. And it has to do with keeping things going strong once "the honeymoon stage" is over. Men have a dark secret they won't tell you about on their views of love.
And for most men, they couldn't even tell you if they wanted to, because they don't even know it about themselves...
It's also something that most women can't understand about men.
Most men know about 1,000 times less than you do about real lasting love.
About communicating about love, experiencing it, sharing it, feeling it intensely, keeping it going... all of it.
And hey, maybe that wasn't such a secret to you... but you're finally hearing it from the horse's mouth. (a man)
Seriously though - we men can be idiots when it comes to being open and close with our partners in long term relationships.
We don't understand some of the things that seem natural, intuitive and obvious to most women.
And we often stop paying attention to the important aspects of a relationship, including consistency in communication, affection, honesty, you name it.
I see it all around me, and sometimes within myself too, as a man. But the reality is that this is just the tip ofthe iceberg.
-Christian Carter-
to be continued
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